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You should just tell him right out. This guy's crazy if he doens't take you up on it!
 

*Disclaimer_ I love Razzy and this is only my 2cents*

Firstly "Man-Eater" is realistically the LAST song you deserve. IMHO this is a facade you present to deter other more serious questions about your life/persona. The line about relationships being "disasters" is telling to me. (not that this is bad. But, overcompensate is overcompensate).

Anyway, men nowadays(read a guy whom you SHOULD be serious with, aka NOT a Daily Douche) usually require hints that they should become alpha. We have become too afraid of rejection and dismissal. Yes, alot of men have been emasculated(only a few admit it)

Most people this day and age cannot even take a really positive constructive crit without becoming defensive whilst posturing against said slight. So, this is perhaps a more social phenomenon.

If this nerd likes you, and you say you have common interests. Can not you simply ask him accompany you on some scotch-tasting - Chingy breeding safari(ew) - Burlesque venue?

I am sure you will find your balance. Nature wields great power. It'll come girl.

oh, and p.s. - I am keeping my sperm. Thx again.
 

I sympathize because I'm very similar and have suffered tremendously over crushes that go nowhere. In the end I've had to just realize that no matter how much you hate "playing games"--you just fucking have to. Guys simply are put off by girls who have a lot of partners--and believe me, I'm not hating, because I've definitely slept around. This doesn't mean you have to be a virgin, but you def. cannot let him in on your extracullicular activities, and you def. cannot sleep with him. You know how to be coy, you just don't want to do it. It's not that hard. It's just a matter of visualizing yourself as someone who deserves a wonderful partner, who's going to appreciate a super hot, super funny woman like you. Once you've convinced yourself that you deserve this, everything will fall into place. And if you don't really believe it, then just fake it. It really works. Don't sleep with him. Don't call him too much. Don't tell him about your other sexual adventures. Don't advice him on his sexual adventures. Do not talk about how much you hate relationships and how you're a man eater. Be friendly, sweet, and mellow. Suggest to him to go out someplace non-alcoholic oriented, like the park--so that you're not tempted to hook up. Look cute (and remember that you really are cute). Once you guys start really getting to know each other and you've put your shield down a little, then you can make little moves--typical shit, like putting your hand on his leg, brushing up against him--all that crap. If he's interested, he'll bite. If not, he may be shy, in which case you can be a little forward and say something cute, like, when are we going on a date. If that still doesn't work, then you have to ask yourself if you are in some kind of self destructive mode, choosing guys on purpose that you know won't like you. And in the end, I've found (and I'm an old lady of 39;-) that most guys--even the shyest ones, will make the move if they feel comfortable and are really into it. Good luck Razzy! I'm sure there a million guys out there who would love to date you!
 

Could it possibly be that he has seen your blog and isn't interested in becoming the future star of another R*** S****** drama-fest? Or perhaps he's read about any number of the other unsavory things you've written about and is disgusted by one (or more likely, most) of them? Anyone that places value on their privacy (i.e., people who don't suffer from personality disorders) would be crazy to date you.
 

You are at a huge disadvantage right off the bat because you sleep around a lot and are very open about it. Guys may high-five you for it, because they see a little of themselves in you. But it doesn't make them want to date you, except maybe for some freaks that you wouldn't want to date.

It's ok, you are still fabulous in my book.
 

Yeah, ask him to go do something socially. If a chick I wasn't interested in asked me to do something (and she seemed normal from all outward appearances) that'd be enough for me to become interested in her.
 

Just stay on his 'radar screen'. Let him 'be around' you -- assuming he wants to be. If he doesn't get over him fast and move on fast! You're probably just 'idealizing' him and he's not the man you've built him up to be and remember: guys are ALLOT more insecure about promiscuity then girls are. If you feel the need to get some 'strange' DON'T TELL HIM! Unless it's a girl.
 

Your value to a male is inversely correlated with your promiscuity. It's as simple as that. There is no point in analyzing it. There is no point in it. It is perhaps best understood by analogy - precious stones and metals are desired (and therefore expensive) because they are rare. If the market were flooded with diamonds that allowed pretty much anyone to have a 5 carat ring, who would really desire one?
 

I'm late to comment here, but try to hang out with him solo at least once a week. If it was meant to be, things will happen. If not, you've got a new friend.

In the meantime, use your booty-calls to tide you over.